Sex is good because God created it. It is a good gift given to a man and a woman in the confines of marriage for pleasure and spiritual, physical, and emotional bonding. It enables those that are in a marriage covenant with God to birth children into the world that will be image bearers and followers of Jesus Christ.
Unfortunately, sex has been perverted by the devil. He can’t create anything; therefore, he perverts the good things that God has created.
Perversion happens when the intended gift, including sex, is not used in the way that God designed.
Voddie Baucham provided an excellent analogy that I’m going to try not to butcher.
Sex can be likened to fire. Fire is good in a confined and controlled environment. An environment where it belongs like a fire pit or fireplace. However, what if I wanted to use fire outside of those environments? What if I wanted to start a fire in my bed, bathtub, or car? That would be insane and unwise. My bed, bathtub, and car would be destroyed.
The same thing happens when sex is used outside of the confines of a marriage between one man and one woman.
1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us to flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside of the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
When you commit sexual immorality, you are damaging–not only your body–but your whole being (your identity). You will incur great emotional, spiritual, psychological, and physical pain that will be deep and profound.
That’s why Christians must remain sober, vigilant, and on guard against sexual immorality.
Here are some tips to help you do just that:
- If your natural desire for sex is being perverted and you are struggling with lust, pornography, fornication, etc., go boldly before the throne of God and confess it. Sometimes as Christians we think that if we just have enough faith and don’t acknowledge what we know is there, it will go away. No, God cannot heal and you cannot overcome what you won’t acknowledge and address. Bring it into the light of God’s presence.
- Ask God for help. No matter how many times you fall, get back up and run to God. Don’t try to hide it from Him…like you could anyway. Don’t try to rationalize it away. Don’t give up. Keep asking God to help you until there is a breakthrough and you are delivered.
- Don’t fight alone. Confess your sin and your struggles to other Christians that you can trust who will hold you accountable and stand in the gap for you through prayer.
- Know your triggers. Don’t watch things, listen to things, or look at things that arouse you. If your co-worker looks like a whole meal, maybe you should keep your distance. If you look at pornography on your phone or computer, maybe you shouldn’t have the internet on either for a season. Maybe you should install software on your phone or computer that will prevent you from going to certain sites.
- Renew your mind by reading God’s word. What does God’s word say about pornography, lust, fornication, lewd and lascivious thoughts, etc. Renewing your mind means that you are adjusting your moral and spiritual vision and thinking to the mind of God, which is designed to transform your life (Romans 12:2).
- Bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. The mind really is the battlefield. When any thought comes up against what you know to be true in God’s word, you can’t entertain it. You must take hold of it and cast it down immediately. When these thoughts come, quote Scripture or start worshipping and praising God. You can’t sin and worship God at the same time. God will always reign supreme.
I hope this helps.
Be encouraged! You are loved! ❤️